What is Self-esteem?
Self-esteem can be described as the confidence and satisfaction in yourself. It is your opinion about your capabilities and limitations. In addition, it involves how you rate your physical appearance, beliefs, behavior and emotions. It is important to identify if your self-esteem needs improvement. Is it too high, too low or just right?
There are 3 Types of Self-esteem. Which one are you?
- Inflated Self-Esteem – people with this type of Self-Esteem are selfish individuals. Who believe that they are special – better than others. They have no sense of accountability for their actions. These people love to play the ‘blame game and resort to bullying others.
- High Self-Esteem – this is the only healthy type of Self-esteem. Healthy self-esteem brings satisfaction to life. It makes you feel good about yourself and your abilities. There is no room for people-pleasing or seeking validation from others.
- Low Self-Esteem – this is a constant feeling of unworthiness or not good enough. Highly sensitive people who are easily influenced normally suffer from low self-esteem. It is a conscious belief that you are stupid and can’t do anything right.
Factors that influence Self-Esteem.
Each child is born as a blank slate. Self-esteem forms over time, the environment will help determine if it is too high, too low or just right. These factors include:
- Thoughts and beliefs
- Interaction with others
- Social Media
- Social Status
- Personal Experiences
Many beliefs you have about yourself today are a direct result of your interactions. Over time, the interactions with the people you care about have shaped you.
You are more likely to have healthy self-esteem if:
- surrounded by people who show love and care.
- you receive positive feedback and constructive criticism when warranted.
On the other hand, there is a high possibility that your self-worth will be low if:
- your relationships are toxic.
- your achievements are not acknowledged.
- you are constantly reminded of your faults and failures.
However, people and circumstances don’t have to determine your worth.
Importance of High Self -Esteem
Healthy/ High Self- esteem is crucial to live a fulfilled life. When you have healthy self-esteem, you are ;
- able to cultivate honest and lasting relationships.
- equipped to manage problems.
- assertive to voice your ideas and opinions.
- confident to make better decisions.
Tips to develop High Self-Esteem
- Control your thoughts and perceptions. This is the biggest determinant of your level of self-esteem. If a friend often spoke to you the way you speak to yourself. How long would you keep this person as a friend? Keep track of your thoughts. Make a conscious decision to think positive thoughts. Listen to motivational and uplifting content. Practice positive self affirmations.
- Stop Focusing on your Faults or Failures. We have all failed at something in our lifetime. Furthermore, we are all flawed human beings. Everyone has at least one thing that they don’t like about themselves. If a specific flaw is affecting your quality of life. Think about what you can do to change it. When you fail at a task, evaluate what went wrong and consider measures you can implement going forward.
- Acknowledge and Celebrate your Strengths, Abilities, and Accomplishments. Don’t downplay any positive in your life.
- Spend time doing activities that make you happy. Think about you for a change.
- Avoid accepting feelings and situations as facts. For example, you tried opening a restaurant once which failed. Don’t tell yourself that you will never own a business. Or that you are a failure.
Healthy self-esteem is important for you to be happy. Traumatic events in life will sometimes cause self-esteem to fluctuate. However, you should always strive for healthy self-esteem. What type of self-esteem do you have? Do you think it needs improvement? Let me know in the comments below. If you enjoyed reading this blog post. Please check out my other posts. Also subscribe to receive the latest updates on my blog.